The Art Of Letting Go

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I have spent all my life believing that you have to do your homework first.  You have to work diligently to get what you want and achieve your dreams  – and this is precisely what I have done.  I have held on  …trying … fighting …. hoping . . . shaping and reshaping myself with a multitude of personalities and characters.   Maybe, just maybe, I thought , you could fall in love with one of them.

With each attempt and with every trial, I unconsciously tore my soul apart.  Then one day I vividly remember waking up and  looking at myself in the mirror.  My heart sank and I saw nothing but an empty reflection.  I had lost it.  I had lost myself and I didn’t know who I was anymore.  I found myself lying down in a very deep hole and my own soul was crucified with my love for you.  As a lover, I did what I had to do.  I fought hard and I stood up to all the challenges I had to endure.  I watched you as you continually fell for others.  Still, you leaned on me, knowing I would be there to lift you up.

Yet I was so busy “being there” for you that I neglected to be there for myself   I forgot to focus on myself.  I forgot that I too felt lonely.  I forgot that I too was in love with someone and that my love was not returned.  I failed to realize that I too needed support.  I felt lost and confused, emotionally and mentally.

Everything except you became fuzzy and hazy.  Then came this moment in life where I had to make a decision, a really critical decision.  I had to choose between  you and myself.  My mind and my soul could not handle both of us.  I had to make a choice and I am really sorry but I couldn’t chose you.  I simply and miraculously discovered that I love myself a great deal more . . and I survived:-)

PS: I have never hated you because hating you would be tantamount to hating myself.  You will always remain in my heart in a little place I call my “survival kit” to keep reminding me that I love myself more than anybody else.  If I have survived you, I can survive anything.

The Way I See It: Not all of us are mastering the art of  letting go in the right time, some do it too early, some do it too late. The only way to do it just on time; is when you ask yourself these three questions:

1-Do I love him/her more than myself ? if YES ..continue with
2-Do I feel loved as much? if  NO…continue with
3-Am I putting so much effort to make them love me and it’s not working?
if YES….
So leave….just walk away…..trust me it’s the right thing to do…if they didn’t love you at first they won’t with time, no matter how hard you try. Just break free…walk away and let it go.
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
― Dr. Seuss
Love and light
Noha
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Speaking of Gaza – Rafeef Ziadeh – We Teach Life, Sir! When Poetry Hurts

Rafeef Ziadah is a Canadian-Palestinian spoken word artist and activist.  She received an Ontario Arts Council Grant from the Word of Mouth’ program to create her debut album Hadeel.  Rafeef started performing poetry in Toronto in 2004 with the spoken word collective Pueblo Unido and is the winner of the 2007 Mayworks Festival Poetry Face-Off. Rafeef’s poetry speaks to the struggle of immigrants to “make it to/in Canada” and the politics of exile.  Being Palestinian she reflects on the realities of her homeland today, to which is not allowed to return> Her debut CD Hadeel is dedicated to Palestinian youth, who still fly kites in the face of F16 bombers, who still remember the names if their villages in Palestine and still hear the sound of Hadeel (cooing of doves). over Gaza.

The Way I See It

Poetry is a gift. We can put words together in a way that hurt, turning to a bullet directed right to your face. One of  the most powerful poem I heard in a long time. Rafeef thank you for reminding me that we are speaking about a HUMAN issue not a POLITICAL issue, you are simply inspirational . I still have this childish dream of both Israeli and Palestinians living in peace.

Love & Light

Noha

Amanda Todd ….We Are Sorry! Outcry Around The World About Online Bullying.

Her last Card read: “I have nobody. I need someone. My name is Amanda Todd.”

Hacktivist group Anonymous has reportedly tracked down the man who bullied Amanda Todd, a 15-year-old Canadian girl who committed suicide after suffering torment that led to depression and anxiety. (Read More) 

The Way I See It:

Amanda, I am sorry…I believe we are all sorry…I am sorry you were led to believe that you have nobody. I am sorry you needed someone and you couldn’t find anyone on time. I am sorry I knew you only after you were gone.

Amanda, I am sorry you had to see the cruel side of this world. I am sorry you didn’t have a chance to be loved as you deserve it, to be respected as a human being. I am sorry you lived through the hardest part of being a teen where humiliating and fighting over a guy is all what’s there. I am sorry you will not enjoy your prom night, you will not shop for the best dress, will not hold hand with your date, you will not feel like a princess, take photos and videos and laugh at it 30 years from now.

I am sorry I had to Google “what is bullying?” and here what I found and want to share so we can all pay attention now…no child or teen should feel alone when bullied ever again!!!

What is Bullying? 

Bullying is an action that is done on purpose;
• One person has more power or strength over another;
• It is usually done more than once; and
• The action is not wanted by the child being bullied

Bullying Can Look Very Different
Physical -hitting or punching
Verbal – teasing or name calling
Emotional – spreading rumours or using threatening gestures
Social – excluding a person on purpose, purposely embarrassing a person
Cyber – sending threats or insults by email or text messaging

How Common is Bullying?
• 15% of Canadian children in grades 1 to 8
report they have been bullied
• 85% of bullying happens in front of others

What is Cyber Bullying?
The use of communication tools:
• E-mail,
• cell phones,
• pager text messages,
• instant messaging,
• or web sites
to purposely harm a person with repeated and aggressive behaviour by a person or a group.

How is Cyber bullying different? 

• Cyber bullying is hidden from adults even more than other types of bullying
• Children being bullied may fear telling an adult because they may lose their internet or cell phone privileges
• The child being bullied may not know who the cyber bully is

What can be done about Cyber bullying?
If you or your child is being cyber bullied here are some things you could do:
• do not reply to the message
• do not erase or delete messages, that is your evidence
• inform your internet, instant messaging or cell phone provider
• contact the police, there are Canadian laws that protect against harassment and
discrimination

Boys and Girls Bullying 
• Verbal bullying is the most common form of bullying for both boys and girls
• Boys are more likely to be involved in physical bullying
• Girls are more likely to be involved in emotional and/or social bullying

How can Cyber Bullying be Prevented?
Parents should discuss with their children:
• Do not believe everything that is said online
• Do not send messages to others when you are angry
• Do not open messages from someone you don’t know
• Trust your instincts, if something makes you uncomfortable turn off the computer and tell an adult
• Use the computer in a supervised area (not the bedroom)
• Do not share personal information or post your picture on the internet
• Limit the amount of time online
• Tell an adult about the information you are looking at and the people you are talking to

What is Wrong with Bullying?
Children who are bullied may:
• feel bad about them self
• have headaches, stomachaches
• have trouble sleeping
• want to hurt themselves or others
Being bullied can get in the way of students’ involvement and learning in school.

Children who Bully
Bullying can be a sign of other harmful behaviour. Children who bully are more likely to:
• Get into frequent fights
• Be injured in a fight
• Steal and damage things
• Drink alcohol and smoke
• Skip school
• Stop going to school
When children who bully become adults, they could be involved in criminal behaviour.

Children who see Bullying
• Children who see acts of bullying may fear being bullied too
• When adults do not stop the bullying, children learn to accept this as normal

A child who is being bullied has a hard time defending him or herself.
Warning Signs
Sometimes children who are bullied are not able to speak out about the bullying due to fear or embarrassment. Possible warning signs that a child may be being bullied are:

• Torn, damaged, or missing pieces of clothing, books, or other belongings
• Unexplained cuts, bruises, and scratches
• Few or no friends
• Fear of school; walking to school, riding the bus, or taking part in teams or clubs
• Unusual route to school
• Less interest in school or begin to receive poor grades
• Looks sad or upset before or after school
• Complains of headaches or other health problems
• Sudden sleeping problems or nightmares
• New eating habits

Where are Children Bullied?
Bullying can take place anywhere. 85% of bullying takes place in front of others. The more common locations for bullying behaviour to occur are:
• At school: the playground, the school bus or the walk home from school, the washrooms or unsupervised hallways
• At home: by family members, on a computer or cell phone
• In the community: sports teams, recreation centres, day cares, play groups

Amanda,

R.I.P, you are not alone now, you are loved as you have always been loved you just didn’t believe it or know it and we didn’t express it enough. Amanda let us all learn from you and be active in stopping and fighting all sort of bullying.

Love and Light

Noha

In Memory Of Fouad Haddad (1927–1985)- دي سحالي

Fouad Haddad - Photo Courtesy from Google

Fouad Haddad – Photo Courtesy from Google

أشعر شعراء العامية على الإطلاق …..هو فؤاد حداد

قامة فارهة في الشعر العامي … تعلم الكل منه …هو فؤاد حداد

أول شاعر طبع ديوانا بالعامية المصرية عام 1947

أدهش الكبار – اكبر الكبار – بيرم … رامي … جاهين … الأبنودي … حجاب … نجم … عبد الباقي

يقول عنه بيرم التونسي : لا احد أشعر من فؤاد حداد

يقول صلاح جاهين : أنا تلميذ فؤاد حداد

هذا الشاعر الذي هاجم أنظمة الحكم الديكتاتورية ودفع ثمن ذلك في ظلام السجن سنينا عدة… هو فؤاد حداد

” فؤاد حداد اختار كل حاجة، كُتب عليه أن يختار كل أموره يعني إحنا في حاجات ولدنا بها وما فكرناش فيها كثير ومستمرة هو كتب عليه أن يفكر في كل الأمور ويغير كل الأمور، يعني اختار الوطن واختار الدين واختارالانتماء للطبقات الشعبية وهو ابن عائلة طبقة وسطى مترفة، كانت عائلة كبيرة لأن والده كان أستاذ جامعي وكان ماسك محاسبة البنك الأهلي كله فما كنش يتصور إن هو هيطلع من هذا البيت هذا الشيوعي وعلى فكرة فؤاد حداد كان بيحب يقول أنا شيوعي … مسلم ويصلي وكل حاجة  لكن أنا شيوعي ما فيهاش هزار ويزعل جدا لو حد قال حضرتك يساري لا، لا أنا شيوعي فاختار الانتماء للطبقات الشعبية اختيار لم يعد عنه إطلاقا حتى إذا العائلة زعلت إذا غير و أصبح مسلم وهو كان مسيحيا وأصبح مسلما، انتماءه للطبقات الشعبية حتى وهو بيمدح الرسول عليه الصلاة والسلام

يعني كان يحب في الدين أن الدين إنصاف الفقراء
وكان يحب الماركسية أنها إنصاف للفقراء
وكان يحب في الإنسانية أنها إنصاف للفقراء
لم يكن يعرف إلا الشعر وإنصاف الفقراء.”

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 دي سحالي


أنا حرّه وأموت في الحريّه

ومزاجي أعمل سحلـيّـه

أزحف ع الأرض وع الحيطه

واطلع وانزل واعمل زيطه

واضرب في الشمس طرمبيطه

أنا حره بديلي وبراسي

وماحدّش يكتم أنفاسي

وما احطش ماسك لإحساسي

ولا احط قزاز

ولا أقفل شيش

عقلي يا هزاز

كلّك نغاشيش

وأنا حره أعيش

أنا عاوزه أعيش

أنا بدي أعيش

أنا نفسي أعيش

على كيف كيفي

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أنا حرّه وأموت في الحريّه

ومزاجي أعمل سحلـيّـه

أرقع في الشمس الزغروطه

واخد حمام من غير فوطه

أنا حره براسي وبديلي

حره بنهاري وبليلي

حره بمناخيري القطقوطه

أنا حره بخشمي ماهوش خشمك

وما احطش برقع ولا يشمك

ولا احط قزاز

ولا أقفل شيش

عقلي يا هزاز

كلّك نغاشيش

وأنا حره أعيش

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أنا حرّه وأموت في الحريّه

ومزاجي أعمل سحلـيّـه

أنا ابقى سحليه وسيمه

ويجيني برص بتاع سيما

وبتاع مزيكا وترا لم لم

واتاوي في حضنه وأنا باحلم

ويقول لي ابتسمي يا بسيمه

وافرحي بالميه وبالخضره

ماتحطيش احمر ولا بودره

ولا احط قزاز

ولا أقفل شيش

عقلي يا هزاز

كلّك نغاشيش

وأنا حره أعيش

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أنا حرّه وأموت في الحريّه

ومزاجي أعمل سحلـيّـه

سحليه وحبايبي سحالي

أنا حره بحالي ومحتالي

حرة أصحصح والا أسخسخ

والا أغني وقلبي يشخشخ

أبواب الدنيا فاتحه لي

ما اقعدشي في الأوده لوحدي

وما احطش إيدي على خدي

ولا احط قزاز

ولا أقفل شيش

عقلي يا هزاز

كلّك نغاشيش

وأنا حره أعيش

أنا عاوزه أعيش

أنا بدي أعيش

أنا نفسي أعيش

على كيف كيفي

Perceptions

Perception - Photo Courtesy from Google

Perception – Photo Courtesy from Google

The Way I See It:

“Life is good…..life is simple …sometimes it doesn’t look like “good & Simple” …but it’s all about perceptions and choices….we just can’t make this choice sometimes and this is when we should know we are loosing our own power to create our own reality”. – Noha Hassan
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Perception (from the Latin perceptio, percipio) is the organization, identification, and interpretation of sensory information in order to fabricate a mental representation through the process of transduction, which sensors in the body transform signals from the environment into encoded neural signals.  All perception involves signals in the nervous system, which in turn result from physical stimulation of the sense organs.For example, vision involves light striking the retinas of the eyes, smell is mediated by odor molecules and hearing involves pressure waves. Perception is not the passive receipt of these signals, but can be shaped by learning, memory and expectation.Perception involves these “top-down” effects as well as the “bottom-up” process of processing sensory input.The “bottom-up” processing is basically low-level information that’s used to build up higher-level information (i.e. – shapes for object recognition). The “top-down” processing refers to a person’s concept and expectations (knowledge) that influence perception. Perception depends on complex functions of the nervous system, but subjectively seems mostly effortless because this processing happens outside conscious awareness. Wikipedia
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In other words: People’s perception is affected and build/shaped by previous experience, memory and expectation. If you think about it that means that the way you see the world and your life now is based on your past and your expectation as well as assumptions of how things will be, should be and must be! Let me tell you one thing, because you had this outcome from a past experience that does mean that you will have the same one if you went through it again. If you choose to look at it differently, think about it positively adding your previous lessons I can assure you ending up with different results. It is so simple if you see it positive so it is, if you see it negative so it is. It’s all in your mind ….! Don’t let others people, other situations, others experiences and anything hold you to Choose to Change your Perception and Create the life you want to yourself!.
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Good Articles to Read on How to Change your Perception:
http://www.mind-your-reality.com/change_your_perception.html
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Pilkington1.html
http://www.kevinhogan.com/power-of-perception.htm
http://www.positive-thinking-principles.com/what-is-perception.html
 Love & Light

Noha

Others Quotes about Perception:
“Humans see what they want to see.”  ―Rick Riordan, The Lightning Thief
“Songs are as sad as the listener.” ― Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ― Wayne W. Dyer
“It’s all in the mind.” ― George Harrison
“Beauty is no quality in things themselves: It exists merely in the mind which contemplates them; and each mind perceives a different beauty.” ― David Hume, Of the Standard of Taste and Other Essays
“I believe I am in Hell, therefore I am.” ― Arthur Rimbaud
“To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.” ― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
“…What happens is of little significance compared with the stories we tell ourselves about what happens. Events matter little, only stories of events affect us.” ― Rabih Alameddine, The Hakawati
“In this treacherous world. Nothing is the truth nor a lie. Everything depends on the color
Of the crystal through which one sees it” ― Pedro Calderón de la Barca
“Nonsense is that which does not fit into the prearranged patterns which we have superimposed on reality…Nonsense is nonsense only when we have not yet found that point of view from which it makes sense.” ― Gary Zukav
 “look at everything as though you are seeing it either for the first or last time, then your time on earth will be filled with glory” ― Betty Smith, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn

An Inspirational Video for Women—”We Are Women”

 

The Way I See It:

If I will ever choose again .. I will choose to be a woman …I will simply choose to be me ..! to all the women in my life: you are special so so special ..unique ..and priceless…….embrace who you are…believe in yourself ..and just break free from those chains they put around you. You are not “labeled” woman …YOU are A woman ..YOU are the woman! We Are Women….

Love & light

Noha

People Can Leave But Their Shadows Remain

Shadow - Photo Credit Noha Hassan

Shadow – Photo Credit Noha Hassan

When people really matter;

When they really mean something to us;

When we really loved and still love them, differently but we still do;

When we really really want them to be happy, good and blessed;

When they are not in our lives anymore for a reason or another, right or wrong;

We never forget them; we simply get use to their absence.

And we always catch their shadows in a jock, a smile, a meal, a hug, a tear coming back in our face screaming: did you forget me?

We get distracted for a second…we run after the shadow, screaming back…No, Never! where are you? how have you been?…did you forget me?

Then we come back to our reality with unanswered question reminding us it was just a shadow.

The Way I See It:

To All the shadows in our lives, not being in each other lives will never mean you are forgotten. It simply mean we are meeting in other dimensions. “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” Rumi

Love & Light

Noha

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