Six Beliefs That Set the Course of Your Life


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Six Beliefs That Set the Course of Your Life

1. If you don’t believe the impossible can happen, then you are right.

2. When you feel like you are less than others, then you are right.

3. When you believe what you have and how you were raised keeps you from having everything you ever dreamed of, you are right.

4. When you believe your mistakes can’t be undone, you are right.

5. When you feel this is the best it is going to get, you are right.

6. When you think someone will never change or rise above their brokenness, you are WRONG!

Shannon L. Alder

The Way I See It: 

Our life is just a mirror to our thoughts and beliefs, that is the rule and that how it goes. If you are unhappy and unsatisfied with your life, if you wonder why this is happening to me? I don’t deserve this or what it is left for me to do? Or how this can change? or I want to change this… The only solution you have it to work on yourself (yes you heard me WORK ON YOURSELF. Change the question and ask what do I need to change in myself so that it can be reflected into my outer life. What kind of limiting beliefs I have that are setting me apart from my desires. Challenge your beliefs, your thoughts and start on changing them one by one and you will see amazing results. One of the great results is actually you will be feeling good and empowered and you will get inspired by watching how little things will start to shift and change for you giving you the fuel to keep on doing that work. It is not easy, it is not for the weak hearts and ill will. We literally face our own demons and challenge them one by one. It takes a lot of effort and guts and remembering a lot of bad situations that shaped us since long time and deciding to eliminate their influence on us today. Recalling all those memories will be painful and we would think they are long gone but it’s not true they are still shaping our reality today, it takes a lot of courage to do so. It is a continuous work on your subconscious to change the set of core beliefs you have about yourself, your life and how things work. Yes It is hard but it is worth it … it is hard but it is liberating.. it is hard but it will set you free… it is hard but you will change your life.


Love and Light



How To Restore Your Faith In Humanity


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The Way I See It:

I believe in us, humans, I believe that it will serve us all good to just stop and remember we are all one. To remember we are all connected in a way or another. So when you get too competitive, too busy hating, envying or stressing over something someone did. When you say to yourself there is no way out, people are mean and we are doomed. Watch this video, remind yourself that deep inside we are all the same, we are scared, we are afraid, we want to fit in,

we want others to love us, we want to help and support, we fear rejection and we need each others approval all the time. Be Kind, be tolerant, be true to yourself and others, be the person you really are from the inside. Talk and deal with this soul inside each one you meet and see…. restore your faith in humanity and yourself.

Kindness and love always …always prevail…. and remember: there is enough for everybody 🙂

Love and Light


When The Majority Becomes The Minority – Find Your Authentic Self


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“If you are a woman, if you’re a person of colour, if you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, if you are a person of size, if you are a person of intelligence, if you are a person of integrity, then you are considered a minority in this world.”  Margaret Cho


Margaret Moran Cho  (born December 5, 1968) is an American comedian, fashion designer, actress, author, and singer-songwriter. Cho, of Korean ancestry, is best known for her stand-up routines, through which she critiques social and political problems, especially those pertaining to race and sexuality. She has also directed and appeared in music videos and has her own clothing line. She has frequently supported LGBT rights and has won awards for her humanitarian efforts on behalf of women, Asians, and the LGBT community.    For Full Bio – Click Here 

The Way I See It:   I had enough of LABELS …who started labeling us per our sex, colour, size etc.. Who created these boxes and convinced us to enter willing into each one of them  and suffocate to death!!!  aren’t we all humans? breathing, thinking, have feelings, brains, minds, thoughts, goals and a life to live and enjoy!…  We are the Majority and they are breaking us down to different type of Minorities …. black people come to this side…. gay people come to that side ….women will be here …. big people will be there ….etc …etc….

What I know …that day after day people are evolving toward the ONENESS concept and one day break free from all these boxes they have created for us.   One day we, us the majority,  will be able to regain our authentic selves …our true selves …our self-esteem and prevail, breaking away from all these labels that were meant to control us and making us feel like shit trying hard all the time to fit into the world they created for us.  We will realized that they spent so much money and effort to teach us how to judge each other – to divide our world  into a hundred labels and boxes that we don’t need.

Look for your self-esteem, look for your true self, love it as it is, honor it and celebrate it. WE ARE THE MAJORITY.

Love and Light



P.S.: I love the way CHO conveyed her message,  so below is the link to her show where she said this quote and her message to us. I also wrote her beautiful words as well – couldn’t say it better CHO!  (minute 1:22.00) (16+)


It’s going to be really hard to find messages of self-love and support anywhere especially women’s and gay men’s culture it’s all about how you have to look a certain way or else you are worthless …  you know when you look in the mirror and you think oh I am so fat I am so old I am so ugly ….don’t you know that is not your authentic self but that is billions upon billions of dollars of advertising magazines movies billboard all geared to make u feel shitty about yourself so you will take your hard earned money and spend it at the mall on some turn around cream that doesn’t turn around shit …

When you don’t have self-esteem you will hesitate before you do anything in your life …

You will hesitate to go for the job you really want to go for,

You will hesitate to ask for a raise

You will hesitate to call yourself an American

You will hesitate to report a rape,

You will hesitate to defend yourself when you are discriminated against because of your race, your sexuality, your size, your gender

You will hesitate to vote

You will hesitate to dream

For us to have self-esteem is truly an act of Revolution

And our Revolution is long overdue

I urge you all today to Love yourself without reservation and to Love each other without restraint …unless you are into leather



Beyond Labels

The below is my article about Women published in Kouhl online magazine. Click here to read the original posting.  Feel free to share and empower other women.

The Way I See It:    No more labels for Women, enough!

Love & Light



What’s your label?   Are you single, married, divorced or widowed?  Are you childless, overweight, ugly, beautiful, tall or short?  Are you easy to get, open- minded, conservative, veiled, unveiled, wealthy or poor?  Throughout our lives, we as women are labelled, pigeon-holed and corralled.  Why does it happen and what should we do about it?

This constant classification of women is a means of controlling our lives, limiting our potential and banishing us to secondary roles.  It may not be pre-meditated, but the casual manner in which society labels women reveals a great deal about its regard for females.  What is even more devastating is that most of these labels relate to our relationship with men and that we are labelled far more frequently than men.

My intention in this article is to discuss some of these labels and to challenge the perception that a woman’s worthiness is primarily derived from males and her association with them.  This perception is unhealthy and it erodes a woman’s self-esteem, her sense of individuality and completeness.

People make assumptions about us based upon our age, our physical appearance or whether we are single mothers or childless.  Unfortunately, Egyptian culture is not very kind to women.  It blatantly promotes the idea that a woman’s worth stems from her association with men.  In Egypt, we are immediately labelled by our marital status and the image we project.

I will choose a few labels to discuss in detail.  Are you labelled “single?”  This is the moment when you are transformed from a human being into a big question mark.  “Why aren`t you married?” you are asked suspiciously. “You look good.  You are educated and you have a pleasant personality.”  In essence, you are being asked, “What’s wrong with you?”

You may feel obliged to defend yourself because no matter how intelligent your answers are or how well you highlight your accomplishments, these are of little significance to the person questioning you.  You may have a decent job and financial independence but your achievements are overshadowed by your marital status.  Your interrogators will invariably end the conversation with the hope that you will get married, as if nothing else mattered.

Are you a divorcee?  This label transforms you into a “conversation piece” and everyone is curious about what went wrong and why you couldn’t handle it.  Divorced women are cajoled into relating their often painful personal stories in order to justify their divorce.  They must be redeemed so that they can maintain their worthiness or their option to remarry.  Not only are they trying to heal from a divorce, but they are sometimes forced to explain


what went wrong when they may be trying to figure it out themselves!

Are you classified by physical appearance?  Labels such as “ugly” and “fat” are used to remind us that our core worth is defined by a specific definition of beauty, a definition conceived and promoted by society and the media.  To deviate from that definition is to find ourselves devalued, our accomplishments and concerns of little recognition.

Then, of course, there is the age factor.  Successful women over 35 seem to come with an expiry date.  They are identified as “the good friend,” “confidante” or ‘the other woman.”  Although they provide a comfort zone, they are not necessarily “the partner” or “the wife.”

When we allow others to define our worth, we lose our own perspective and a part of ourselves. Sadly, we become subjected to perceptions of ourselves that are not necessarily our own but of family, friends and community.  We are left to follow an artificial script which requires us to meet others’ expectations of whom we should be.  The results can be painful, leading us to lose our sense of individuality, worthiness and freedom.  Thus, our aspirations become limited and controlled.

We women need to be reminded how strong and influential we really are.  We are the movers and shakers.  We are the artists of our society.  We are the workers, the thinkers, the lawyers, the athletes and the politicians.  We are doctors, scientists, teachers and journalists as well as wives, sisters, daughters and mothers.  We contribute.  We get things done and we do them well!

So what is the path to a better future for Egyptian women and all women?  How can we avoid the distraction of being labelled?  The answer is to stop thinking about an “opposite” sex and to appreciate what individuals have to offer when they are perceived as full-fledged human beings.  This means looking beyond labels and viewing ourselves in a different light.  It means moving past conventional expectations by empowering ourselves politically, economically and socially.

Women need to be politically active and aware.  We need to run for public office and vote.  We ought to participate in decisions that affect our social and economic standing.  We ought to involve ourselves in education and public policy.  We should stand together and spread the message that we can make a difference.  We should reach out to women in the hinterland, to those outside of the major cities.  The way to do this is through increased literacy, general education and gainful employment.  This is the key to independence for these women and it leads to increased awareness of their rights.

There is power in numbers and we have the numbers.  In May 2012, Egypt’s Agency for Public Mobilisation and Statistics reported that Egypt’s population had reached 82 million.  49.3 per cent of that population is female and, according to UN Women, 23 million of those females were eligible to vote in last spring’s election.  So, yes, we make up half the population.  All we require is a sense of solidarity, a stronger and more unified approach.  This is the message of empowerment that I am keen to impart in my fellow women, particularly those in the Middle East.  It’s time to extricate ourselves from labels.

Written by: Noha Hassan

Edited by: Joanne Madden

Noha Hassan – A freelance writer and poet, creating in French, English as well as Arabic. Publishing her work in Egyptian newspapers as well as her blog ( A devoted advocate of women’s rights and is particularly concerned about the welfare of women in the Middle East, focusing on empowerment of women through Pen, Poetry and Photography.

Photo Credit:  Samer Kamel Photography – Mashrou3 Hagar

Top 10 Inspiring TED Talks Women Should See

To celebrate Charmain Gooch winner of the year of the $1 million TED Prize and TED’s 30th anniversary – Anna Verghese, Deputy Director of the TED Prize recommended the top 10 moments for women in TED that we all need to see.

What’s TED anyway?     TED is a nonprofit devoted to spreading ideas, usually in the form of short, powerful talks (18 minutes or less). TED began in 1984 (YES TED IS TURNING 30!) as a conference where Technology, Entertainment and Design converged, and today covers almost all topics — from science to business to global issues — in more than 100 languages. Meanwhile, independently run TEDx events help share ideas in communities around the world.

The Way I See It:  One of my empowering tools online is to check TED and see what’s new! Women should always empower other women to achieve their dreams and potential. There are many ways to do that: having conferences, talk, sharing experiences are some ways to do so…but you don’t have to get an audience, stage or to go online to send a message and to have an impact.

Women can do – and actually do it on a day-to-day basis with their normal lives. Funny enough Women in many cases don’t know the role they play in others’ lives. They don’t know that their stories could be the inspiring example to other women around them.   To all women: we can change and inspire our daughters, nieces, neighbors, family members and our communities’ females. Take their hands, show them the way and share the experience.   Every woman can be a TED guest and inspire, every woman has her own stage and audience where she can leave them with a life changing impact and ideas to think about.   I am happy to share these recommended 10 TED talks that all women should see; to be empowered and inspired. I recommend searching TED for more inspiring topics and talk.

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Amy Cuddy: Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are (19,393,029 Total Views)

Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.


Brené Brown: The Power of Vulnerability (16,248,080 Total Views) 

Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.


Jill Bolte Taylor: My Stroke of Insight (15,640,661 Total Views) 

Jill Bolte Taylor got a research opportunity few brain scientists would wish for: She had a massive stroke, and watched as her brain functions — motion, speech, self-awareness — shut down one by one. An astonishing story.


Elizabeth Gilbert: Your Elusive Creative Genius (8,716,450 Total views) 

Elizabeth Gilbert muses on the impossible things we expect from artists and geniuses — and shares the radical idea that, instead of the rare person “being” a genius, all of us “have” a genius. It’s a funny, personal and surprisingly moving talk.


Chimamanda Adichie: The Danger of a Single Story  (7,21 7,329 Total views)

Our lives, our cultures, are composed of many overlapping stories. Novelist Chimamanda Adichie tells the story of how she found her authentic cultural voice — and warns that if we hear only a single story about another person or country, we risk a critical misunderstanding.


Sheryl Sandberg: Why We Have Too Few Women Leaders  (4,567,724 Total Views)

Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg looks at why a smaller percentage of women than men reach the top of their professions — and offers 3 powerful pieces of advice to women aiming for the C-suite.


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As a grad student, Cynthia Breazeal wondered why we were using robots on Mars, but not in our living rooms. The key, she realized: training robots to interact with people. Now she dreams up and builds robots that teach, learn — and play. Watch for amazing demo footage of a new interactive game for kids.


Leymah Gbowee: Unlock the Intelligence, Passion, Greatness of Girls  (803,897 Total Views) 

Nobel Peace Prize winner Leymah Gbowee has two powerful stories to tell — of her own life’s transformation, and of the untapped potential of girls around the world. Can we transform the world by unlocking the greatness of girls?


Courtney Martin: This isn’t her mother’s feminism (705,887 Total Views)

Blogger Courtney Martin examines the perennially loaded word “feminism” in this personal and heartfelt talk. She talks through the three essential paradoxes of her generation’s quest to define the term for themselves.


Angela Patton: A Father-Daughter Dance…in Prison (620,942 Total Views) 

At Camp Diva, Angela Patton works to help girls and fathers stay connected and in each others’ lives. But what about girls whose fathers can’t be there — because they’re in jail? Patton tells the story of a very special father-daughter dance.


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Tell Yourself Happy V. Day First


I hate it when I believe in people more than they believe in themselves. When I can see what they are capable of doing and they don’t. When they don’t believe me when I tell them how beautiful , deserving and powerful they are. Oh well I guess I will keep secretly wishing them to see that one day on their own. When they are ready to discover their true selves and regain their own power. No one is helpless or lost or unloved .. you simply can’t see it, believe it or feel it and you are not able to find it deep within you. Love yourself first, everything start from this point. If you don’t love yourself please don’t blame life or the circumstances or what you should have or shouldn’t have done or people for not having love in your life.. it is a  “you and you” relationship first 🙂 So start by wishing yourself a Happy Valentine and promise yourself a year full of self love before thinking about who will or will not say it to you. If we don’t love ourselves how on earth are we expecting others to love us? Won’t happen. To start loving ourselves we have to accept ourselves exactly as we are Now and right this moment.. when the door for acceptance and love is open.. the door for change opens on its own.

Love yourself and say out loud: I am loved ..All is good. I will leave you with this great quote by Sir Charles Spencer “Charlie” Chaplin to learn from it.

“As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE”!”

Love and Light

Still I Rise: A Message To Every Woman

The Way I See It: 

Every WOMAN should seek the power within and Rise. Ladies: Connect with your roots of Strength, Pride and the essence of who you really are. No matter what you THINK you look like, no matter what ANYBODY is telling you who you SHOULD BE, HAVE to BE…break the frames, the fear, the disappointments, the doubts, unwrap yourself from any label and set yourself free, to soar, to fly to BE what YOU meant to BE: A WOMAN that Still will Rise. It’s ALL within Ladies, All within….

Everyone in the world will pair one way or another with fear pain or loss or disappointment yet each of us has awakened and risen. Maya Angelou

Love and Light – Noha

BIO (more): Dr. Maya Angelou is one of the most renowned and influential voices of our time. Hailed as a global renaissance woman, Dr. Angelou is a celebrated poet, memoirist, novelist, educator, dramatist, producer, actress, historian, filmmaker, and civil rights activist. Born on April 4th, 1928, in St. Louis, Missouri, Dr. Angelou was raised in St. Louis and Stamps, Arkansas.

Still I Rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may tread me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Maya Angelou

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